got self-belief?
(there are a million reasons why not)
The world has done a spectacular job of convincing women to doubt themselves—to work harder, stay smaller, be grateful, smile more.
And maybe you’re just… done. With the doubt. The burnout. With being told you’re too much—and somehow also not enough. Done with squeezing yourself into boxes that were never built for you.
You’ve tried the books and podcasts. Or none of it, because, who has the time? You know there’s something more. Not a personality makeover. Not a ten-step plan. Just a shift. A real one.
That’s where I come in.
I’m a certified coach who works 1:1 with women who are ready to stop fixing themselves and start trusting who they are. Fully. Together, we build confidence, clarity, and radical self-belief. With humor, honesty, deep breaths, occasional swearing, and a whole lot of heart along the way.
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You’re a young woman ready to take up space
You’ve worked hard. You’re smart. You’re capable. And yet, somehow, the guy next to you with half your skill set is running the meeting.
I coach women like you to build the kind of confidence that so many men seem to have on autopilot.
We’ll work together to quiet the inner critic, discover and develop your leadership style, and help you show up and move through the world like you already belong. Because you do.
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You're a woman in midlife carrying everything but herself
Life feels like a constant negotiation. Career, caregiving, hormones, expectations. The invisible labor of holding everything together while pretending it’s “balance.”
You love your life (maybe), but you’re done with carrying it all. You’re ready to trade burnout for flow. Perfection for peace. And the myth of “having it all” for the truth of having yourself .
Let’s reclaim your ease. Let’s rebuild a rhythm that actually works for you.
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You heard about Befriend Your Brain and you know it's time
It’s not a cape. (Though honestly, a cape would look great on you.) It’s a workbook. 12 exercises designed to help you turn your brain from your loudest critic into your strongest ally.
But it’s more than a workbook. It’s the framework I use in my coaching. It’s my philosophy. It’s how I live my own life. On good days, at least.
Join my email list, and I’ll send you your very own copy.
WHAT’S THIS BEFRIEND YOUR BRAIN
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Befriend Your Brain started as a workbook and is growing into a movement (I’m determined to grow it into a movement).
The 12 exercises contained inside were created and developed during, and between, life coaching sessions with some incredibly dedicated clients.
Their mission is simple: to bring more joy, more ease, and more growth into your life.
Click below to join my mailing list and get a copy of the workbook in your inbox. You’ll also get musings, confessions, and unfiltered honesty.
We’ll talk about ambition, burnout, confidence, perimenopause, parenting, and patriarchy—all through the lens of radical self-belief.
Because belief in yourself isn’t fluff. It’s rebellion. And it’s the foundation of every big, brave, audacious thing you’re on this planet to do.
Come on in. And start Befriending Your Brain already.
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DARLA MILLSTEIN …
WHO’S THAT?!
I’m a relentless optimist and a realist in equal measure—solution-focused, yes, but also hell-bent on naming how hard it all really is, especially for women.
I want to change the world and take a damn nap. Both feel necessary.
I’ve been obsessed with self-belief and growth since forever—before I could spell self-actualization (I still can’t spell self-actualization). I’ve lived through it all: identity shifts, career pivots, relationship evolutions, hormone rollercoasters, parenting meltdowns, fashion trends, and spiritual quests. Sometimes I’ve loved myself through it. Sometimes I’ve barely tolerated myself. But I’ve always stayed curious.
Do I have self-doubt? Constantly.
Do I struggle? Absolutely.
Do I fantasize about disappearing into the woods or joining the circus? Daily.
I’ve seen firsthand how our brilliant brains can turn against us—how self-doubt sneaks in, how we hustle ourselves into exhaustion, how we forget our own brilliance because the world benefits when we do.
That’s why I write and coach about all of it. Not from a pedestal, but from the middle of the mess—with humor, heart, and the deep belief that ease is possible, even when life feels like a lot.
Because I’m in it, too.
I remind myself I’m a good mom, even when my kid requests a new one. I believe I’m a bestselling author, even though the book’s still in progress. And I love living in Jordan—even when I dream about pulled-pork sandwiches, cold beer on tap, and the ocean stretching out in every direction.
