got clarity?
(there are a million reasons why not)
When life feels frantic and unmanageable, I help you tame the chaos.
Maybe you’re at the point where everything feels loud. The doubt. The burnout. The constant push-pull of being told you’re too much and somehow also not enough.
You’ve been holding it together for a long time, and you’re tired of forcing yourself to fit into systems and expectations that were never built for you.
That’s where I come in.
I’m a certified coach who work 1:1 with women who are ready to untangle mess created by broken systems and live in a way that actually fits them.
We take what feels chaotic and make it manageable. We slow things down, focus on what matters, and build confidence, clarity, and real change from the inside out. With humor, honesty, deep breaths, occasional swearing, and a lot of heart.
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You’re a young woman ready to take up space
You’ve worked hard. You’re smart. You’re capable. And yet, somehow, the guy next to you with half your skill set is running the meeting.
I coach women like you to build the kind of confidence that so many men seem to have on autopilot.
We’ll work together to quiet the inner critic, discover and develop your leadership style, and help you show up and move through the world like you already belong. Because you do.
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You're a woman in midlife carrying everything but herself
Life feels like a constant negotiation. Career, caregiving, hormones, expectations. The invisible labor of holding everything together while pretending it’s “balance.”
You love your life (maybe), but you’re done with carrying it all. You’re ready to trade burnout for flow. Perfection for peace. And the myth of “having it all” for the truth of having yourself .
Let’s reclaim your ease. Let’s rebuild a rhythm that actually works for you.
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You heard about Befriend Your Brain and you know it's time
It’s not a cape. (Though honestly, a cape would look great on you.) It’s a workbook. 12 exercises designed to help you turn your brain from your loudest critic into your strongest ally.
But it’s more than a workbook. It’s the framework I use in my coaching. It’s my philosophy. It’s how I live my own life. On good days, at least.
Join my email list, and I’ll send you your very own copy.
WHAT’S THIS BEFRIEND YOUR BRAIN
STUFF ALL ABOUT?
Befriend Your Brain started as a workbook and is growing into a movement (I’m determined to grow it into a movement).
The 12 exercises contained inside were created and developed during, and between, life coaching sessions with some incredibly dedicated clients.
Their mission is simple: to bring more joy, more ease, and more growth into your life.
Join my mailing list and get musings, confessions, and unfiltered honesty as I Befriend Your Brain.
We’ll talk about ambition, burnout, confidence, perimenopause, parenting, and patriarchy—all through the lens of radical self-belief.
Because belief in yourself isn’t fluff. It’s rebellion. And it’s the foundation of every big, brave, audacious thing you’re on this planet to do.
Come on in. And start Befriending Your Brain already.
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DARLA MILLSTEIN …
WHO’S THAT?!
I’m a relentless optimist and a realist in equal measure. Solution-focused, yes, but also hell-bent on naming how hard and chaotic it all really is, especially for women.
I want to change the world and take a damn nap.
I’ve been obsessed with growth mindset since before I could spell self-actualization (I still can’t spell it actually). I’ve lived through it all: identity shifts, career pivots, relationship evolutions, hormone rollercoasters, parenting meltdowns, and life quests. Sometimes I’ve loved myself through it. Sometimes I’ve barely tolerated myself. But I’ve always stayed curious.
Do I have self-doubt? Constantly.
Do I struggle to get shit done? Absolutely.
Do I fantasize about disappearing into the woods or joining the circus? Daily.
I’ve seen firsthand how our brilliant brains can turn against us—how self-doubt sneaks in, how we hustle ourselves into exhaustion, how life feels unmanageable because the world benefits when we forget our own brilliance.
That’s why I write and coach about all of it. Not from a pedestal, but from the middle of the mess—with humor, heart, and the deep belief that ease is possible, even when life is a lot.
I remind myself I’m a good mom, even when my kid requests a new one. I believe I’m a bestselling author, even though the book’s still in progress. And I love living in Jordan—even when I dream about pulled-pork sandwiches, cold beer on tap, and the ocean stretching out in every direction.
